I was watching tv the other day and Clueless came on. The late Brittany Murphy was in it of course and it got me thinking about other movies she was in. You know how your mind just has a train of thought that leads from destination to destination? Well that's how I ended up with this quote. "You never see the hard days in a photo album...but those are the ones that get you from one happy snapshot to the next." This was from the movie Just Married (which is awesome btw) and I remember when I heard it how I thought it was such a perfect line. The last few months...or years rather... I've been struggling with various things and when I think of this quote, I know that things will eventually be okay. I feel that this quote even applies to Facebook. Just because I don't post about all the bull shit going on in my life, doesn't mean it doesn't exist. I just choose not to share every aspect on here, or with everyone I know for that matter.
I know that certain people have been talking about me and my family behind my back. I know they've been forming opinions about certain things we do, or decisions we've made. I know that certain people are saying that I am a bad person, or that I'm in the wrong. Whatever your opinion is, make sure you don't create it until you have all the facts. I'm sorry I don't use Facebook to air out my dirty laundry or to tell the world how awful my life is. Granted I know I'm not perfect, and I have in the past, and still do on occasion vent. But over sharing, especially on Facebook, is not something I'm into. If I don't share something with you, it's probably because I know you're going to talk behind my back anyway.
I don't confide in many people. I confide in a close few that I know I can rely on to listen when I need an ear, to give me advice when it's appropriate, or to tell me that things are going to be okay when I feel like the world is crashing down. Those people can be viewed as lucky, or unlucky depending on your standard, but either way I'm lucky to have them. Those of you, you know who you are...thank you. Just because I don't post details about how I'm feeling about certain situations, or about what exactly is happening in my life, does not mean that you get to decide that I'm a bitch for not telling you. Get over yourself. I know I can't stand seeing the same depressed status updates from some people on Facebook. It's just annoying! If I wanted to be friends with Eeyore then I'd move to Critter Country at Disneyland.
So with that being said, yes I'm going through a hard time, yes I struggle, yes I cry and I pray and I dream that things will get better. But until then, I'll just share the happy and high moments of my life, or just the random status updates that come to mind. Facebook isn't real life people. It's a SOCIAL NETWORK. I use it to be social with those people I choose. I get to decide what I post, and who I choose to be friends with. If I am not friends with you on Facebook, it is either A. You post too much drama, B. I don't want to read your posts, or C. I could give a shit if you fall off a cliff. Unless I tell you why I deleted someone off of Facebook, don't make assumptions, because you're making yourself look like an asshole.
